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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI do get the trend of writing what you know or are passionate about but it's the reason there should be more diverse writer rooms/teams/etc. and more diverse decision makers - directors,...I do get the trend of writing what you know or are passionate about but it's the reason there should be more diverse writer rooms/teams/etc. and more diverse decision makers - directors, producers, editors, execs - and creatives in general.
Because that's how you get good representation.
Also I've had multiple trans friends go a similar route with RP characters - both LARP and TTRPG. And my non-binary self may have dabbled similarly.
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOh no I get that it's systemic and all, but I don't buy that there aren't plenty of good tropes out there and I think far too many people lump female characters into a bucket based on them being a...Oh no I get that it's systemic and all, but I don't buy that there aren't plenty of good tropes out there and I think far too many people lump female characters into a bucket based on them being a woman. There are just a lot of bad writers, few female writers, fewer female directors, and even fewer female decision makers.
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentThat's all fair, maybe I'm just thinking of some of the particularly tall guy friends of mine who felt like they went from short to giraffe and were also moody as shit. But it's all fair. Mine was...That's all fair, maybe I'm just thinking of some of the particularly tall guy friends of mine who felt like they went from short to giraffe and were also moody as shit. But it's all fair.
Mine was less physical and more emotional turmoil myself.
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentNo that's fair, I just only have generalizations and observations of testosterone based puberty to go from so it was a general and genuine question.No that's fair, I just only have generalizations and observations of testosterone based puberty to go from so it was a general and genuine question.
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentDid feeling awkward, clumsy and emotional as your body changes literal sizes not relate to "male" puberty? From watching them as a teen and now as an adult, it seemed like it wasn't that different...Did feeling awkward, clumsy and emotional as your body changes literal sizes not relate to "male" puberty? From watching them as a teen and now as an adult, it seemed like it wasn't that different to what teen boys go through either. But that's an exterior perspective.
I did relate her experiences to mine pretty strongly but I find it odd that it's so alien feeling to guys when I also heard them complain about similar puberty experiences - just not when we were all teens together because who talks to "the opposite sex" about that.
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Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI couldn't remember. It was So dumb. Like I'm channeling Benoit Blanc from Glass Onion "NO, ITS JUST DUMB"I couldn't remember. It was So dumb.
Like I'm channeling Benoit Blanc from Glass Onion
"NO, ITS JUST DUMB"
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI fundamentally disagree with this entire premise to such a degree that articulating it is going to take me pages. But frankly, I think the idea that there's no model for "good female character"...But they aren't real though are they? They're fictional movie characters and fictional male characters are far more established than fictional female characters.
When the extent of female character is not much more than the aforementioned swooning mistress it'll need some time before a good female character is established. And I know we aren't there yet because we're currently in the asocial strong powerful woman phase. Very much not like an actual person either.
Now there are good female characters for sure, Ripley is an easy example, but it's not ubiquitous for writers rooms to land on a good lead yet. Nothing is worse than a decent female lead pulled into a love triangle, which becomes her entire identity from then on.I fundamentally disagree with this entire premise to such a degree that articulating it is going to take me pages. But frankly, I think the idea that there's no model for "good female character" but there's some ur "male character" and that there haven't been women in film for as long as there have been men, is reflective of internal individual and systemic bias. And if one of the best female characters was just written as a person and cast as woman, perhaps it's not that there's a problem with women characters. It's a problem with assumptions about them and what makes them "good".
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Comment on Meryl Streep: it’s ‘hardest thing’ for men to see themselves in female characters in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentBut they shouldn't be harder to write because they're just people. And perhaps it's a problem with the writers not anything about the characters. (Well and the fact that a badly written woman is...Male characters are well threaded ground at this point, so it's far easier to write a male character that isn't awful than it is to write a female character that isn't awful.
But they shouldn't be harder to write because they're just people. And perhaps it's a problem with the writers not anything about the characters.
(Well and the fact that a badly written woman is proof of "Woke™/DEI goes broke" and a badly written man is just a bad character in a bad movie.)
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Comment on Raw milk easy to obtain despite bird flu warning, FDA interstate ban in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentOk I tried really hard but got more info on that series?Ok I tried really hard but got more info on that series?
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Comment on "twitter.com" is now officially dead in ~tech
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYou have to actively follow people or go looking for feeds. For example I follow a Spec List of SFF authors and a Disability feed of activists, and I've slowly followed more people as I go. The...You have to actively follow people or go looking for feeds. For example I follow a Spec List of SFF authors and a Disability feed of activists, and I've slowly followed more people as I go.
The "Following" page is literally just that, without exposing you to new people.
Here's a Science feed for example
https://bsky.app/profile/did:plc:jfhpnnst6flqway4eaeqzj2a/feed/for-science -
Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI don't remember if it's in the book too but the fact that there was a design of the word Illuminati that could be read upside down or right side up was the dumbest plot point. Any graphic...I don't remember if it's in the book too but the fact that there was a design of the word Illuminati that could be read upside down or right side up was the dumbest plot point.
Any graphic designer could have made that. It's not a conspiracy
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Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae LinkI read one or two of them, and they were fun in the moment but I didn't think they were good. But also, that's fine? I just read a series of dystopian smut novels. The story was actually quite...I read one or two of them, and they were fun in the moment but I didn't think they were good. But also, that's fine? I just read a series of dystopian smut novels. The story was actually quite good and the sex was well written but I am not claiming they're fine literature.
It's fine to read fluff, whether it's Dan Brown or Booktok.
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Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentAs a former Catholic he got a lot wrong... Or I'm in on the conspiracyAs a former Catholic he got a lot wrong... Or I'm in on the conspiracy
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Comment on Indiana judge rules tacos, burritos are sandwiches in ~food
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentYeah the Twitter user themselves didn't want to claim actual credit for it. I suspect it's been rolling around the internet much longerYeah the Twitter user themselves didn't want to claim actual credit for it. I suspect it's been rolling around the internet much longer
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Comment on Indiana judge rules tacos, burritos are sandwiches in ~food
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Comment on Fifth American tourist arrested at Turks and Caicos airport after ammo allegedly found in luggage in ~travel
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentIf anything useful can come out of it, perhaps folks broadly will have more empathy for those that end up in such sentences in our prison system. But I don't know that it will change there either.If anything useful can come out of it, perhaps folks broadly will have more empathy for those that end up in such sentences in our prison system. But I don't know that it will change there either.
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Comment on Fifth American tourist arrested at Turks and Caicos airport after ammo allegedly found in luggage in ~travel
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI don't know that anyone thinks that "jail" is "deserved" for this, particularly 12 years in prison." It just that it's incumbent on the person traveling to ensure they follow the laws of the...I don't know that anyone thinks that "jail" is "deserved" for this, particularly 12 years in prison." It just that it's incumbent on the person traveling to ensure they follow the laws of the country they're going to, even if the law is unreasonable. Or alternatively, not to travel there.
I think this law is an overreaction, but I don't live there and don't know the context of why it was made. I also know some folks are getting lesser sentences. But I would not travel with the possibility of lose ammo, cannabis, queer media, whatever if it would get me arrested for 12 years or longer. And I'd not travel to countries that have such zero tolerance policies.
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Comment on ‘Mitzvah night is cancelled’ Inside the sex strike that has infuriated husbands and shaken the ultra-Orthodox world in ~life.women
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentI find a lot of things that I like about Judaism. I don't agree with all its tenets nor the Noahide laws that it asks of non-believers but I like the legalism, and the idea that proselytizing is...I find a lot of things that I like about Judaism. I don't agree with all its tenets nor the Noahide laws that it asks of non-believers but I like the legalism, and the idea that proselytizing is not the thing to do. And I find a lot of solace in ritual. But yeah I feel like I've read about gets and such before but found this particularly evocative and interesting.
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Comment on ‘Furiosa’ fires up Cannes with six-minute standing ovation for Anya Taylor-Joy and teary Chris Hemsworth in ~movies
DefinitelyNotAFae Link ParentCan you share why? I grew up having watched the first two Mad Max movies, and Fury Road seemed to fit right in to me?Can you share why? I grew up having watched the first two Mad Max movies, and Fury Road seemed to fit right in to me?
In a broader sense the "Chosen One" narratives may not deal explicitly with the coming of age part but usually it's included. Luke Skywalker is a whiny awkward teen turned resistance fighter pilot by the end of the first movie.